“What counts in making a happy marriage is not so much how compatible you are; but how you deal with incompatibility…..” – George Levinger.
“A good marriage would be between a blind wife and a deaf husband…” –Michel De Montaigne.
Like the moon, her face is radiant with eclipse of anguish slaps
for there has been an icy patches on her being
too many words coming from loose mouths
she feels pressured
and now, the lad’s head is beginning to fall off
How she wishes she could quit aging
so she could plea;
plea to become a fetus in Mama’s womb again
she’s furious and her heart is tearing apart
They say her days are spinning
through the moments of nuptial bliss;
the Nuptial Box!
Parents, siblings, friends…………
aunties, uncles, cousins, acquaintances……
and maybe nephews and nieces too
everyone except moi is too desperate than myself
What they failed to know even at the expense of life’s own whips
marriage at the start is an empty box
yes, it’s an empty
if u take out more than u put in……
the box will eventually be Empty
the Nuptial Box!
They’re too afraid she will outgrow the stage of childbirth
call it motherhood
Again, what they failed to understand is that;
to be a mother,
a woman doesn’t necessarily need to have children of her own
the relationship from her heart to humanity makes her a mother
The magic however……..;
isn’t about getting married
it’s about understanding Marriage
and who is really ready to tolerate u for as long as it may matters
Truth is, the Nuptial Box is empty;
u must put something in before…..
u can take something out
in age quantum,
the lad may………
may be up-bottom but in marriage codes-
I am still bottom-up!
To infuse experiences into the empty marriage box……
pause, wait a minute, give her a break and note this;
she first have to learn the art and form
the habit of giving, loving, serving and praising to keep the box full
so u listen, yes……
Listen, my family, friends, relatives, first flightiest, mates on board
and also to u there;
her neck is causing her so much discomfort already
things will get done when they get done
Marriage is where her husband is………
he will find her when it matters
oh yeah, he’ll join her in love, kept by God forever
And so in the cycle of time,
let faith found me
For at the right time, it will happen for all the right reasons!
The woes of tradition- marriage is not a norm;
The Nuptial Box!